Ask Me Anything Q&A…

Ask Me Anything Q&A...

By MistressLolaRuin September 13, 2016

Today's blog is a Q&A, with questions submitted by My twitter followers.

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A Twitter Q&A Session

 At what age did you realise your calling to dominate the weak male, and how?
I think I have always had a Dominant side, and was always told as a little girl that I was too bossy. Pretty much as soon as I became interested in sex I also became interested in kink (foot fetishism in particular fascinated Me, and was very much a 'gateway fetish'...). I then began a relationship with a wonderful guy who identified as sub, and this was My first real introduction to more traditional D/s. Although we have since parted ways, I remained Domme 🙂
How long have you been hooping?
I've been hooping for about a year. I have a lot to learn still and sadly not quite as much time to practice anymore. I'd love to learn acro/acroyoga, contact juggling too!

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Thailand Beach Makes for the Perfect Hooping Backdrop


How many dommes do you think are into it only for the money, as opposed to at least partly for genuine enthusiasm for BDSM?
I think it would be incredibly hard to really do well at this job, and therefore earn a lot of money, unless you have a genuine interest and understanding of BDSM. Having said that, I have met a fair few Dommes who do not identify as lifestyle players. They are still amazing Dommes. On a slight tangent, I can understand why to our slaves our enjoyment/a genuine interest in BDSM is important, but in general the empowerment rhetoric around sex work really irks Me. Everyone who charges money for what they are doing are doing it for the money. A genuine enjoyment or passion for that is a bonus, in any line of work.
Do you do medical sessions do you like and have any nurse uniforms?
Of course I love to cater for medical fetishes. It ties in so well to so many of My favourite fetishes, ruined orgasm being the most obvious one. I have a couple of nurses uniforms but I am currently looking to upgrade to a new one (very light blue, vintage style latex uniform). No doubt I will post some pictures once it has arrived...

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New Nurses Uniform Coming Soon...

What's your favourite aspect when you administer a feminization/sissification session?
I love the process of feminisation, not just in the physical sense but also in the mental sense. As they take on the more feminine clothes, they also take a more feminine role. I love to work out what 'kind' of sissy they are... slutty, girly, shy, confident... This feminine persona can differ so drastically from both their 'vanilla' persona and 'male sub' persona. That particular aspect of transformation is fascinating to Me.
Have you done edging shoejobs with your heel soles rubbing it close to exploding but not allowing relief/rubbed a cock with heels soles and as he is about to cum you step hard on cock with heels stoping it/rubbed a cock with heel soles then as he cums you kick his balls with heels giving painful gasm?
Yes I have done all of those things. I am not going to elaborate here. If you want some wanking material, My Clips4Sale Store has plenty 😉 Here are some previews of some of My latest and upcoming clips... 





 


Ur most important trait in subs and Y: finance, obedience, humor, appearance(include sexiness), openness, or endurance?

Obedience and Openess would likely be the most important to Me. In order to session with Me, a sub must naturally possess both of these qualities. Finance is important insofar as they need to be able to pay for the time they spend with Me. Spoiling Me or showering Me with gifts, although lovely, is never mandatory and so that aspect isn't important. As O/our relationship develops, I would expect their endurance levels to also increase. Appearance does not matter to Me in the slightest when it comes to sessioning slaves (but a piece of submissive eye candy is always a bonus!) 
I didn't get a chance to answer all of the questions I was sent, so I will likely repeat a Q&A in the future. 
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Until next time…

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Behind the scenes…

Behind the scenes...

By MistressLolaRuin August 26, 2016

Today I thought I would take you 'behind the scenes' of both My work and play.

Late last week I travelled down to the infamous English Mansion after being invited to a FemDom Garden party, hosted by the wonderful Mistress Sidonia. Also attended by Mistress Evilyne and Mistress Annalieza, We were served and entertained by 5 very lucky subbies (or perhaps you would class them as unlucky considering how cruel all Us ladies are...?)

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With the fabulously wicked Mistress Evilyne and Mistress Annalieza...

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Before the Garden Party was in full swing, with sub sophie

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With Mistress Sidonia, Mistress Evilyne, sub sophie and Mistress Annalieza...

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The Aftermath...


Of course, all of Our antics were captured on video (along with other scenes I filmed whilst there), and will be available on The English Mansion Website soon...

 

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After the garden party I stayed over at the Mansion, then early the next morning rushed off to meet up with My sister at a small yoga festival close by. Outside of Domming I have many vanilla interests of which yoga comes pretty near the top of the list, perhaps this will be a surprise to those of you who think I live in latex and thigh boots!

 

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En route to a rainy festival... PVC perverts rejoice!

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My first class of the festival... can you spot Me?

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Body painting yoga anatomy class...

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Final day of the festival, soothing aching muscles in a hot tub with My sister...


After a night pampering Myself in a hotel, I finally made the long journey back up North to Manchester. Naturally, My slaves there were patiently waiting for My return.

It seems I am very much living by a 'work hard, play hard' motto right now. Not only do I adore My work, I also adore how it allows Me the luxury of being able to take time off to pursue other pleasures.

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One final piece of eye candy, snapped between scenes at The English Mansion...


My downtime is very precious to Me. Being a Domme can be very psychologically draining, especially so when you are also lifestyle like Myself. During very busy periods I have previously been close to burning out, and so I make of point of both limiting the amount of sessions I take per day as well as really 'unplugging' when I take time off. I feel fully focused and present during My time with slaves when I have quality downtime, but it also makes Me feel happier and healthier overall. 

I feel very lucky to have such a great balance in My life. Thank you to all My slaves, submissives and fans for contributing to that 🙂

Until next time…

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An Anniversary…

An Anniversary...

By MistressLolaRuin May 9, 2016

I just realised this past weekend that I passed a milestone in My career as a Professional Dominatrix… the anniversary of when I first started working at My very first Dungeon. It seems fitting to write a blog to reflect and celebrate 🙂

The first photo of Me to ever appear online, a candid shot from before I became a PD. Some things (like My addiction to rubber) never change...
The first photo of Me to ever appear online, a candid shot from before I became a PD. Some things (like My addiction to rubber) never change...

I adore what I do for a living, and I think the past year in particular I have fallen in love with it all over again. Before I became a Domme, I worked an awful minimum wage call centre job, which was the only job I could get after graduating into a recession. The anti-sex work brigade always cite ‘economic coercion’ as a major reason why people enter the adult industry (personally I'm pretty sure anyone who has a job is economically coerced into it...), and whilst it was true that it was certainly the best career choice available to Me financially, it was also the most fun, exciting, interesting, stimulating, flexible… I could go on and on. Even now years later, when I could conceivably find another profession much more easily than I could as a recent graduate, I wouldn't want to.
 

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A shot from My first professional photoshoot. I hadn't started showing My face yet.

Don’t get Me wrong, there have been a few lows… when long serving, loyal slaves have moved on or been dismissed, when the government brings out legislation without consultation or warning that seriously impacts you, and when the slew of time-wasters that all Us Dommes have to put up with have outnumbered the sessions. When the work just isn’t there it can be pretty disheartening, and when you are in a sense selling yourself, it’s hard not to take those quiet spells personally. Not to mention the social stigma that can be attached to working in the adult industry... How that affects what friends/families/strangers/society think of you, how dating can be a minefield, how it can affect your future career choices and all the associated issues people working in My industry face (and on which I could write a dissertation about...)
 

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A snapshot from one of My very first clips when I started regularly filming for My C4S Store

But… the highs by far outnumber those lows, and the truth is that I LOVE My job. It has allowed Me to do so many incredible things, and I have ticked off some amazing goals I had, both professional and personal. I've travelled and toured internationally. I opened My clip store and consequently filmed for the amazing English Mansion, whom were so lovely to Me. I’ve met so many interesting and inspiring people professionally (both Dommes and subs) and personally I’ve slowly surrounded Myself with the most incredible group of friends whom accept what I do and are proud of Me for doing it. I’ve supported and cared for family members through tough times, which I absolutely would not have been able to do in any other job. I’ve been bought wonderful gifts by wonderfully generous slaves. It has allowed Me to be incredibly independent, and given Me financial freedom. I have become more confident, happy, self-assured...
And of course, I have had a ridiculous amount of kinky fun!
 

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A snapshot from when I filmed for the fabulous English Mansion last year... go check out all their amazing content here!

I also think that what I do is important, in it’s own way... I am sure a fair few of My subs agree with that sentiment. I have blogged before about how therapeutic I think BDSM can be, and I still very much believe that to be true. I love the idea that I create a safe space where My subs can relinquish control and explore aspects of their sexuality they otherwise wouldn't be able to. Doing that gives Me a real sense of fulfilment, which I am not sure another job could offer Me.
 

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One of the most recent photos of Me, a quick snap between sessions a few weeks ago...

So to all My slaves, subs, clips fans, and of course all you loyal blog readers, thank you for your continued support. It means a lot 🙂
 
Choose a job you love, and never work a day in your life…
 
Until next time…

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