I spent many years working in shared Dungeon premises, but opening my own personal playspace was a dream for a long time. To have the freedom to create premises which reflected my own taste and was constructed especially for my own slaves... Finally, that dream became a reality in 2017.
Just a few minutes walk from Ashton Under Lyne centre, my personal playspace is a portal into another world... a gorgeous and bespoke space created entirely to serve as the setting for your deepest and darkest fantasies.
A conversion of an industrial unit, the white brick are adorned with candles and coloured lights, allowing to change the ambience to suit even the most demanding scenes. Filled with heavy steel and black leather furniture, and packed to the brim with every piece of kinky equipment imaginable (more on that below), here your expectations will be exceeded. The walls are embellished with two of my favourite Artists, the delightfully erotic Carolyn Weltman and the incomparable Sardax. Of course, a loud sound system will both fill the room with whatever music I deem best for your scene, and will help to drown out your squeals.
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My chambers are incredibly well served by all Manchester transport links, with the Railway Station, Bus Station and Metrolink all only a 5 minute walk away, and just short 15 minute journey from Manchester city centre. For submissives who drive, my playspace is surrounded by ample free parking in an industrial area. You will enter my realm through a door tucked away in a private courtyard... keeping the most timid amongst you safe in the knowledge there will be no nosey curtain twitching neighbours clocking you entering or leaving my playspace.
Of course, most exciting of all in my playspace is the equipment!
My playroom is packed to the brim with every piece of kinky kit you could dream of. Alongside the standard heavier furniture such as bondage bed, A Frame, Cage an so on, I have all the smaller implements you crave... whips, gags and clamps galore! A more extensive list of my equipment can be found here, but for now, allow me to give you a deeper introduction to 3 of my favourite toys...
Venus Milking Machine This is my absolute favourite toy bar none. With variable settings and recievers to get exactly the right fit for your milking, the sensation can range from achingly slow to making you cum within seconds! Just imagine me being able to control your pleasure and frustration with a turn of the dial...
F-Machine Gigolo Fucking Machine One of the top rated machines available, the Gigolo is totally customisable to suit everyone, from the nervous beginner to the experienced strap on sluts! Perhaps we can introduce you with a sensual start before cranking it up to it's impressive top speeds... Best of all, an adaptor means I can use ANY of my extensive dildo collection, and the remote control allows me to subject you to even more forms of torment whilst this Fuck Machine works its magic...
MasterMindCrafts Smother Box For the facesitting aficinados amongst you, this can smother you like never before. Head clamps allow me to lock you exactly into place, and an inflatable pillow means I can pump you up to exactly the right height to be totally at my mercy, buried between my cheeks...
Alongside my dedicated playroom, my premises also boast...
A Large, 'Art Deco' Reception Room The perfect space for those of you seeking either a more 'domestic' or homely setting for your fantasies, this is also the perfect place to wind down with a cup of coffee after our play time. This room is home to a large sofa adorned with velvet cushions, candles, mood lighting and a widescreen TV.
A Small Bathroom With toilet and a shower, plus an abundance of freshly laundered towels and all the toiletries you could possibly want, such as shampoo, condition, shower gel, toothpaste and brushes, deoderant and mouthwash.
A Kitchenette Always stocked with a selection of different coffees, teas, small snacks and juices, along with kettle, toaster, fridge, freezer. Perfect for my extended experiences!
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Where do we begin? Lola Ruin first began her journey as a Domme almost a decade ago, just a year after graduating from a Psychology University degree, with a focus on feminism and human sexuality... the perfect education for a Dominatrix! She was soon taking her first training sessions at the infamous Manchester Dungeon in Bury. Here she was under the guidance of some of the best Manchester Mistresses, many of whom still session today.
Since then, Lola Ruin has cultivated a wealth of kinky experience and expertise. After 9 years full time as a Professional Dominatrix, she is a master at getting into the minds of her slaves.
Her Tameside dungeon is easily accessible by both car and public transport. Only a 5 minute walk from the local train station, metrolink tram stop and bus station. There will be no last minute parking panic for those who drive to see her, as her chambers are surrounded with an abundance of free parking.
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As well as being a reflection of her own personal taste and decor, a personal playspace allows Lola Ruin complete freedom over her sessions. Mistress Lola is the only one who uses any of the equipment. As a result, there is a high standard of cleanliness and hygiene. A private dungeon allows a level of discretion unmatched by shared chambers. As one of the only Manchester Mistresses to boast their own private playroom, this is a testament to her professionalism and success.
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Unlike many Dominatrices, Lola Ruin does not enjoy cruelly beating her slaves into submission. Rather, she prefers to lull you into a false sense of security. To seduce you into revealing your fantasies to her. She will train you to the utmost standards, whilst tormenting you mercilessly along the way. Above all, Manchester Mistress Lola believe in the healing power of BDSM. Ultimately, she wants her slaves to feel transformed by their time serving under her tutelage. A short browse over hertestimonials will demonstrate that she cares deeply about her submissives.
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It’s getting towards evening on New Year’s Eve. I’m spending it quietly, and I’ve used it as an opportunity to spend almost the whole day walking around in just my chastity cage. It’s not only more comfortable that way, it also helps to remind me of the state I’ll be in during my session with Mistress Lola (although I haven’t been crawling around on the floor to complete the picture).
There are only three days left before O/our session and apart from dwelling on the frustration of having been denied an orgasm for so long I can also start wondering whether Mistress Lola will allow me to have one, and what price (probably measured in can strokes!) I will have to pay for it. Right now it feels like She wouldn’t even have to remove the cage to provoke me into having a ruined orgasm…
Having stayed awake to see in the new year last night, and having woken up at more or less a normal time this morning, only a few hours seemed to have passed from watching Mistress Lola’s video when settling into bed to watching it again before getting up. It’s been an easy routine to get used to. Maybe I’m just feeling quite compliant; I’m certainly feeling very attentive.
I’ve just spent the day thinking about my session with Mistress Lola constantly. I actually watched more than my mandated three video clips today (and I still haven’t watched the clip for this evening!). I still have the compulsion to seek out that sort of stimulation even though I know I cannot do much with the energy it fosters. I suppose that’s the emotional paradox at the centre of chastity training: having to constrain a desire that it becomes harder and harder to ignore over time.
As much as I think I’m possessed of a good store of willpower under most circumstances, I think one thing has become clear to me over the last couple of weeks or so: without being locked in this cage I’m not sure I would have coped with the demands of the experience. I hardly notice it now, and I imagine (I know) it will feel a little strange not to wear it.
I’m writing this very late in the day on my last day locked in chastity before I see Mistress Lola. I didn’t sleep too well last night, waking up early (again!) thinking about the session and wondering what Mistress Lola has in store for me. All I know for sure is that I will start the session where I belong, worshipping Her feet. Having in the past been let out of chastity during a session only to be locked up again after it, I can’t know for sure whether Mistress Lola will unlock me, whether She will allow me an orgasm, or anything else.
I can’t express how much I love being under Her control, though, whatever She intends to do to me tomorrow, and that feels like an appropriate sentiment on which to leave this diary entry: the best, most definitive part about being locked in chastity is giving up control to the Mistress I adore.
I bet if you're reading this blog post, you've watched porn at some point in your life. I've defended porn many times in the past. But, there is one aspect of porn which I cannot defend, and that is the serious lack of female sexual pleasure, and especially the depiction of GOOD pussy worship and outstanding cunnilingus.
Rarely in mainstream pornography do I see a woman being given head, and even less do I see women being given what looks like GOOD head. The general story-line of a porno goes... woman gives head, woman gets a fucking, woman gets cum in her face... the end. You'd be forgiven for thinking based on that, that women need zero warm up for pleasurable sex and that they all find it super easy to orgasm through penetration alone (actually, only 18% of women cum through intercourse)
If you're a man reading this, and the only research you've ever done into pleasuring a woman is drawing on what you've seen men doing in mainstream porn movies, then you are FAILING your sexual partner. So, here is an idiot proof guide to pleasuring your woman, peppered with some excellent advice from my twitter followers, which will hopefully give you somewhere to start from...
A quick disclaimer before we dive in... I don't personally offer pussy worship as part of my sessions. I'm simply writing this for the good of all pussies everywhere 😉
Truly learn to love and WORSHIP pussy
First thing first... you need to learn to gain pleasure JUST from giving it to the woman you're with. And, you need to stop thinking of cunninlingus as a 'warm-up event' to a main act. For the vast majority of women whose pleasure depends on clitoral stimulation, THIS is the most important sex act, and the one most likely to rock her world and give her the earth shattering orgasm she deserves from you.
I'll let you in on a little secret. I used to HATE giving head to my boyfriends when I was a teenager. I felt under pressure to be a fantastic lover, and I was constantly worried I may not be doing it right. Too hard? Too soft? Too slow? Throw into that some hair pulling/forcing my head down onto them (oh HI more moves learned from mainstream porn!), and it was just NOT FUN.
Then, I reframed my thinking. My lovers pleasure was completely in my hands when I gave oral sex, and I was free to focus completely on them. What if I took the time and effort to learn to be good at it? I realised, this was my opportunity to BLOW THEIR MINDS.
It's a real rush, being in complete power of another persons pleasure like that. As most people reading this are probably into kink, it's worth pointing out how giving head can be both a submissive OR a Dominant act. Focusing all your energy on giving your Top complete pleasure. Or, taking your submissive's pleasure completely into your own hands. It works both ways, no matter your kinky orientation.
Focus on Pleasure, not the Goal
Most women give head without any intention of making men orgasm. They do so simply to give them pleasure, and make them feel good. When you go down, do so with the intention of giving her a pleasurable experience from start to finish. If you can make her cum, of course that's fantastic. But for many people, having that as the sole intention can put a lot of pressure on both giver and receiver. Not to mention, there are a multitude of different reasons why a woman may not be able to reach orgasm (medication, stress, menopause...). Whilst I am going to include bringing your woman to orgasm in the following instructions, you should aim to be pleasure-orientated, NOT goal orientated.
This is the mindset you should have when you worship pussy. Your aim is to completely 'let go' into the act of giving. This is your opportunity to become completely lost in the intimacy of exploring her body, discovering what she likes, taking the time to spoil her and focus solely on her pleasure. This is an experience you are sharing with her.
So, before we even begin to talk about techniques, let's delve into female anatomy...
The Anatomy of the Pussy
Quite often wrongly referred to as 'the vagina' (which is actually just the entrance), the 'vulva' is the correct medical term for female genitalia. I am going to refer to it as the pussy, and it's comprised of the following parts...
Mon Pubis - A soft mound of flesh over the pubic bone Front Commissure - A highly sensitive area where the lips meet with the clitoris Clitoral Hood - A hood of skin made from the meeting of the lips which covers the highly sensitive clitoral glans in a similar way to a foreskin covering the head of the penis Clitoral Glans - Also referred to as the 'clitoris' (although it is just the only visible part of a much wider structure). Between 4-7mm large, it contains over 8000 nerve endings and is the only organ in the human body dedicated solely to sexual pleasure. Frenulum - The inner edges of the labia minora meet to form a highly sensitive area packed with nerve endings. Urethra - The hole where urine comes from Labia Minora - Also known as the inner lips, they surround the clitoral glans, urethra and vaginal entrance and are packed with nerve endings and are highly sensitive Labia Majora - Also known as the outer lips, they are less sensitive than the inner lips and swell with blood during arousal Vagina - The entrance to the vagina Fourchette - The bottom meeting point for the lips Perineum - The space between the fourchette and anus, it has a network of blood and tissues and can be a good area to stimulate Anus - If you don't know what this is, you really are an idiot... 🙂
When you are worshipping pussy, there are a LOT of hot spots you want to include, but none are more important than the Clitoris. Believe it or not, the full structure of the clitoris wasn't fully discovered until 1998.
The (internal) Anatomy of the Clitoris
Just like the vulva is often wrongly called the vagina, the word 'clitoris' is often used just to describe the 'clitoral glans'. In fact, the full structure of the clitoris is mostly internal, reaching about 7cm in length. The internal strucure is made up of...
Suspensory Ligament - Helps to retract the clitoral glans back when too sensitive and immediately before orgasm Shaft of Clitoris - Can easily be felt, especially when aroused, and runs upwards under the front commissure towards the mons pubis Glans - The only visible part of the clitoris Leg - Also called 'crura', the shaft dives downwards and splits into two legs which run along the path of the labia G-Spot / Clitoral Cluster - Around 2 inches inside the vaginal entrance on the 'ceiling', a soft spongy like tissue dense with nerve endings and connected to the clitoral network Bulb of Clitoris - Twin bulbs of erectile tissue which surround the vaginal entrance and engorge with blood when aroused.
The clitoris is the POWERHOUSE of female sexual pleasure, and as you can see, the is actually a much larger organ than the tiny little nub (the glans) you can see and stimulate from the outside. It expands all around the pussy, including deep inside towards the G-Spot, or more accurately named 'clitoral cluster'. The clitoris is the only organ in the human body (female or male) made solely for the purpose of sexual pleasure.
Now you have a general understanding of female anatomy...
Some general DON'TS when it comes to Worshipping Pussy
DO NOT EVER go in straight for the clitoral glans. There are 8000 nerve endings packed into the glans, which is double the amount in your entire dick. So, imagine your dick being twice as sensitive as it is now, and then imagine all that sensitivity is condensed down into an area only 5mm big. Bearing that in mind, you want to avoid any direct contact until she is seriously warmed up and ready.
DO NOT use a sharp, pointy, stabby/flicky tongue motion (as seen in porn). That is great for the camera but not great for anything else.
DO NOT write the alphabet and expect to get her off. Women need consistency and rhythm, and clumsily making your way through your ABC's won't give her either.
DO NOT dive in with rough passion. The idea here is WORSHIP. That means taking all the time it needs to go slowly and savour every part. If she wants you to spend hours lapping away at her, so be it. You are here to please.
DO NOT motorboat the pussy. Just no. This is especially irritating if you have any kind of facial hair. We DO NOT want stubble rash.
Finally, before we delve into what you should do, a quick word on...
It would be remiss of me not to say that you should be seeking affirmative, enthusiastic consent from any woman you are with. No matter what your personal thoughts on the #MeToo movement is, it should at the very least have informed you that the vast majority of women are dealing with some kind of sexual trauma, and that you should act accordingly.
Whilst below I am going to give some fairly specific advice on how to worship pussy, the best guide will always be the woman you are worshipping. You should keep lines of communication open with her at all times. Prompt her to guide you. Ask her to tell you what feels good for her. Try to read how she reacts to different techniques.
It's unlikely that everything I write here will work for every woman. You're job is to find out specifically what works for her. Every woman is different, and the below tips and tricks are simply a starting point.
Warming up to Pussy Worship
My first tip for giving great head to a woman is to take your time, even BEFORE you begin worshipping. Spend at least 10-15 minutes arousing her before you even think of using your tongue on her. Use long body-length strokes with your hands, deep french kissing, teasing stroking, slowly undressing (but leave her underwear on)...
You want to build up the anticipation. You want her body flooded with feel good chemicals before you even make your way down to pleasuring her. When stimulated, breasts and nipples release oxycotin, the 'cuddling' hormone, increasing sensitivity to touch... so you should be sure to pay attention to them. Always err on the side of gentle until you figure out how she likes it. Listen to her breathing, and let that guide your touch.
After some ample build-up, you can work your way down to worship her. The best position is her lying flat on her back on you on your front between her legs (or, alternatively, knelt on the floor with her resting on the edge of the bed). You should be prepared to spend A LOT of time worshipping her, so get comfortable. Make sure you can easily move both your hands/arms and you have plenty of room to move your face. And for god sake, have clean and well trimmed fingernails. No one wants you scratching their insides.
Even MORE warming up to Pussy Worship
Now she knows you're going to worship her, you want to tease her. Make her ACHE for your mouth. The upper inner thighs are packed with nerve endings, so start there. Plant slow, gentle kisses all over, but no where near her pussy (yet). Treat her to slow, gentle fingertip strokes. Trace your tongue gently along the outside of her underwear. The more anticipation you can build before you touch her pussy, the better.
Then, gentle kisses all over the top of her underwear, beginning at the vagina, working up over the outside lips, then finally over the front commisure/glans area. Combine all of the above with slow, exhales of hot breath. Play with different, gentle sensations. All of this should be INCREDIBLY tender, and you should be savouring every second of it (as will she!).
Now, only AFTER all this build up, should you remove her underwear, and give her what she is now longing for...
The First Lick
Keep in mind the two most important 'Don't' I listed earlier... do not dive straight into attacking the clitoral glans, and do not use a pointy, stabby tongue. You're here as a worshipper, not a woodpecker.
Start with a seriously wet tongue, and press it against the fourchette. Lick the entire length upwards with a flat tongue and gentle pressure. Ease up on that pressure as you pass over the glans, and finish when the tip on your tongue is resting on the front commisure (which will gently stimulate the clitoral shaft hidden just beneath). Then, work your way back down again. GO AS SLOW AS POSSIBLE. You've made her ache for this, so drag out that first lick as long as possible, taking the time to try and enjoy every inch of her.
Building a Rhythm
Now, you want to repeat that 'First Lick' motion over and over again. The idea here is to excite her enough that her clitoral glans become desensitised and ready for more intense attention. After you've done this for a little while, then you can inject some slight variations here and there. Some ideas include...
Increasing/decreasing the speed, mixing it up, but only very very slightly. Never go fast and aggressive.
Concentrating your tongue over to the left side, then centre again, then right side.
Do 'halfway' licks, skipping the upper half of her vulva altogether.
Using your lips to apply pressure to different parts of her as you lick.
At the end of a long lick, bring your lips together as though you are 'french kissing' her pussy.
Resting your tongue still for a few seconds every now and again.
Combining long licks from the bottom which then 'break contact' with her body for a couple of seconds after you have reached the top.
You want to keep those long, flat tongue licks as your 'main' move, but inject a little bit of unpredictability with the above variations.
As you are doing this, take note... What is she reacting to most? Which moves are making her moan? Does it seem she really doesn't like when you do 'x'? Pay close attention as you lavish her, discounting anything she seems not to like, and including a little more of what she does. Regardless of what she likes, your main focus should be on building a steady rhythm.
Finally, after you've really explored her, you can begin to pay attention to the clitoral glans by gently running your tongue over it as you continue worshipping her entire pussy. If she's enjoying it, begin to pay it more and more focus. If it seems like it's a little too much, go back to stimulating everywhere but, and try again after a few more minutes.
Increasing the Intensity
Once she is suitably warmed up for more intense focus on the clitoral glans, begin to slowly shift the majority of your focus there, gradually spending more and more time and attention on the upper half of her pussy.
Continue with wet, gentle, flat tongue strokes, and then begin to explore some of the variations and see what feels good for her...
Resting your upper lip on the front commisure, create a 'seal' with your bottom lip and apply flat, wet licks between.
Play around with licking direction... up and down, side to side, gentle circular motions.
The frenulum is nerve rich, and may also be worth paying some attention to with your tongue.
If she is responding well, you might even be able to add some gentle 'suckling' combined with light tongue action
Apply pressure using your upper lip/gum to the front commisure (which will stimulate the hidden clitoral shaft beneath) whilst your tongue works slow and steady over the clitoral glans.
As before, you want to keep a steady rhythm whilst you explore how she likes to be worshipped, all the while keeping persistent contact with her clitoral glans.
(Not so) Idle Hands
Now that your paying some well deserved attention to the clitoral glans, it's also time to get your hands involved to really up the ante. Begin by teasingly exploring her using either your index finger or your thumb. Gentle strokes along the labia, the fourchette, the vagina and the front commisure are all excellent erogenous zones, especially when combined with licks.
After a little while you can then insert a single finger, just a couple of inches. DO NOT do this roughly or too soon. Take note of how her body responds... did she moan? Did you feel her tighten around your finger? Hold it still there for a few seconds, whilst your mouth and tongue works on the upper half of her vulva. Then, begin to experiment with finger/thumb movements...
Gently stroke the inner walls of her vagina.
Experiment with a light 'swirling' motion.
Move your finger slightly 'in and out', with your palm making contact against her labia on the in stroke, stimulating the clitoral legs/bulbs. Think of this less as 'finger fucking' her (which can feel very clumsy), and more as though you are massaging the ceiling of her vagina.
Use a free finger/thumb/other hand to apply pressure to her perineum
Use a free finger/thumb/other hand to tease or gently tease her anus. If she responds well, she may also like you to insert a finger (make sure it's wet, and don't then use that finger anywhere else on her pussy). Always be gentle and ask for her feedback.
If she is responding well to a single finger, insert a second (index and middle work best, keep them glued together)
With your palm facing up, curl your finger(s) gently in a 'come hither' motion, massaging the ceiling of her vagina.When you do the last thing on this list, you might notice a small, spongy bump of tissue...
The G-Spot / Clitoral Cluster
You've probably heard of a G-Spot, which makes it sound like a 'separate' hot spot of pleasure, when in fact it is more accurately described as a 'Clitoral Cluster'... a bundle of nerves directly linked to the internal structure of the clitoris.
If you have truly taken your time to really arouse every part of her, it should be engorged and fairly easy to find. You do not want to 'hammer' away at it, rather apply firm pressure, using the 'come hither' motion to massage her clitoris from the inside out, or gentle circular motions.
So now, you've played around and experimented, and you have gradually given her more and more of what she has responded to until shes able to take some more intense attention on both the clitoral glans AND clitoral cluster. At this point, you're probably applying firm pressure using your fingers inside her, and your tongue is gently swirling over her clitoral glans.
Now, you want to UP the pressure on her clitoral glans. Increase it bit by bit, going from gentle to firm, using your upper lip/gum to also apply pressure to the front commisure as you do. This is not a case of going faster or increasing speed. Whichever way she enjoyed your tongue earlier (up and down/side to side/circular), do that now but with more pressure.
Slow and steady wins the race here boys. You do NOT need to go rampantly fast. Keeping a steady rhythm and increasing pressure is the key.
As you do this, look out for signs of...
Increased, deepening breath
Feeling her get hotter/heart racing
A tightening of the abdominal muscles
A 'tensing up' of all her muscles
A tightenting/pulsing of her vagina
Her clitoral glans 'retracting' underneath the clitoral hood
All of which are clues that she is approaching...
The Pussy Worship Orgasm
When you notice the above signs, all the sexual tension you have spent so long building is about to explode. What is most important here is to retain focus. Keep doing EXACTLY as you are doing. Be consistent and persistent. Do not speed up and DO NOT change what you are doing. Even if your face feels like it might fall off, it will be for a good cause 😉
Not all that long after, you should be able to feel her orgasm against you. At this point, keep DIRECT contact with her as much as possible. Keeping the same rhythm will help to prolong her orgasm. You should be able to feel this most around your fingers as her pelvic floor muscles squeeze you in short bursts. Most womens orgasms last around 10 - 20 seconds, and you need to keep up the pace this entire time.
Once you feel her start to slow and relax, then you should immediately relieve the pressure on her clitoral glans (if she hasn't already pushed you away!). For most women, this becomes outrageously sensitive right after orgasm, so you need to pay attention to her and ease off as she floats back down from the incredible orgasm your mouth just gave her.
Multiple Pussy Worship Orgasms
Most women are capable of multiple orgasms, so why stop at just 1 orgasm? Unlike men who need a refractory period, women are pretty much ready to begin all over again straight away. Go back to your 'warming up' techniques, being careful once again to avoid the clitoral glans whilst she takes a few minutes to cool down.
The second time around you'll be able to work through the process above more quickly as she is already well warmed up AND you know what she likes and what works... so, enjoy lavishing even more pleasure on her.
A Quick Pussy Worship Recap
Have the right mindset. You are here to WORSHIP and adore her, and be pleasure orientated not goal orientated.
Gain affirmative, enthusiastic consent.
Spend 10-15 minutes kissing, stroking and arousing her. Build up the anticipation.
Take your time to savour every part of her pussy, teasing her with your mouth to explore her inner thighs/over her underwear and avoiding the clitoral glans.
Begin with long, slow, wet and flat licks.
Build up a steady rhythm, and vary it only very occasionally, just enough so it's unpredictable.
Gradually begin to pay more and more attention to the clitoral glans.
Use your hands/fingers/thumbs as your mouth concentrates on the upper half of her pussy.
Keep experimenting, and see what she likes!
Focus in on what is working for her, generally applying firm pressure to the G-Spot/Clitoral Cluster with your fingers and gentle pressure on the head of her clitoris with both your lips and tongue.
Increase the pressure, and stay consistent. Do not alter speed or technique when you can tell it's working.
Keep going until she orgasms, and keep in contact with her until you start to feel her 'ease off'.
Following the pace of her body, reduce pressure on the head of her clitoris and slow down all movements.
Go back to step 4 and repeat until she begs you stop or you put her in a coma.
So, there you go boys. A foolproof guide to the most important parts of a womans pussy, and how to worship them correctly. However, if you REALLY want to be great at pussy worship, there are countless other articles, books, instructional videos and entire websites dedicated solely to female sexual pleasure. GO FORTH AND FIND THEM!
I'll leave you finally with this hilarious video, just in case you need a little more guidance on how to know whether you are doing it right or not...
As promised in My previous blog, a recent slave of Mine who came for a full 24 hour session has written something for Me to share with you all. More than just simply a 'testimonial', this reads like an erotic story reflecting on his experiences as My submissive. Of course, I have included some eye candy I snapped during O/our session. I hope you enjoy reading it...
Mistress enters the room, she is pure perfection. Dressed to kill, her every curve amplified by the clinging and yet elegant outfit. Her glowing hair cascades over her shoulders. Her heels are loud and commanding as she strides towards your naked, exposed being.
She’s aware of your heated gaze, reprimands and blindfolds you. Mistress glides around you instructing you to raise a hand or spread a leg to be cuffed. The brush of her hair or touch of a hand to your skin is electrifying. The aura of her sexuality encompasses her. You are already hers, ready to melt into the ground at her feet.
Some Dommes exude a certain malevolence that’s intoxicating to a hardened masochist. Mistress does not exude evil. However, as in the 1965 movie “She” Ursula Andress has total control of all around her without raising a finger. If you could see you would observe the aura of mischievous sexuality glowing from her eyes, through her enigmatic smile, to her entire being.
She confirms this with a twist of a nipple that roars down your nerves directly to your genitalia.
Following what can only be described as a warm up, standing, arms raised, legs spread wide and vulnerable, Mistress releases you. After stretching your limbs, you are hooded or gagged and blindfolded. She commands you to lie prone on her bench and with cuffs, mitts, rope, straps, spreaders and chain making sure that you are totally exposed, ready to become the object that she chooses to torment, arouse, hurt and control as she pleases.
The heavy leather hood blocks even the smallest light. You have some hearing, but nothing is clear and Mistress restricts or allows muffled speech as she chooses. Your very breath can be taken away by her hand laid over the hood. As you contemplate your predicament and breathe deep every other sense comes alive in your being.
The slightest touch or breath as Mistress works to make sure you are one hundred percent exposed and helpless arouses you even further. The odd chuckle or word makes it clear that she’s thoroughly enjoying every moment and builds the scene for what’s to follow.
Once satisfied with her preparation, the torment builds as she alternates between a gloved hand caressing a nipple and a nail or sharp object abusing the reddened swelling protrusion. Between the light touch of a hand, brush of her hair and or a soft scarf the tension heightens as clamps are applied to delicate parts of your anatomy. While you breathe deeply and savour the endorphins rushing through the highways within your body she’s attaching you don’t know what to your cock and balls. Straps or cord tighten around them as your penis twitches constantly loving the attention and begging for more.
Gradually you become aware of a pulsing sensation from behind your testicles to the tip of your penis. Now you know what she was up to the last few minutes. Tormenting you between your legs, on your genitalia, nipples and elsewhere with spiky objects intensifies your arousal tenfold. Your Goddess is clearly enjoying herself, every time your tormented body parts are becoming used to the pulsing, throbbing sensations.
She increases the power, sometimes a little, sometimes in leaps that make your back arch as far as the bonds allow and every muscle in your body holds taught as a guitar string. She’s aware you’re close, so she backs off the electric just a little. However, she increases the delicious torment with other items and small devices that pulse and vibrate. While you smell the leather of the hood you also smell her delicious aroma. You feel her presence to the left, to the right, a brush of your foot.
Without warning the e-stim laps high, you can tell she’s enjoying every minute. Your body tenses again, your cock feels it must explode as by now you are lying in a pool of perspiration. Between the multiple series of intense arousal your desire to leave your skin, leap from the table, throw your Mistress on her back and make mad passionate love to her enters your mind. Yet: The deep felt feeling that you entirely restricted and are hers to do with as she pleases, while she torments your entire being, is so intoxicating that you would never so much as touch her without permission.
As the torment increases to a crescendo and time is of no consequence your desire for release is overwhelming and yet, within, you wish for this intoxicating torment to last for hours, days, weeks.