Back to Sessions…

Back to Sessions...

By MistressLolaRuin | February 6, 2018

After an extended break, I am thankfully feeling so much better. I have already returned to sessions, and over the next couple of weeks will be easing Myself back into webcam sessions and filming.

My down time did Me the world of good. Anyone who has also experienced depression could probably agree with Me how difficult it can be to manage. Most of all, I just felt completely overwhelmed and emotionally exhausted.

My work was not at all the cause, but it had become a major cause of stress. Worrying that I wasn't replying to emails quick enough. Feeling anxious that I wasn't filming as much as I should. The level of admin involved in Pro-Domming is huge, and I was falling behind and feeling more burdened by the day.

I did not anticipate the response I got when I announced My break and reasons for doing so. Hundreds of messages of support poured in. I was blown away by how understanding everyone was, and how generous people are when they know you're struggling. If you ever feel like that, don't hesitate to tell those around you... peoples willingness to help will surprise you.

Thank you to everyone who messaged Me during My break. I can't put into words how much I appreciated it.

Now that I am back, I am also making a few changes to My sessions.

Strap-on and Anal Play

Firstly, and probably most exciting to some of you, is the reintroduction of strap on and anal play into My sessions. After a few bad experiences early in My career I decided to take this off My fetishes list. In My personal life I never stopped pegging though, and My enjoyment has been rekindled even more recently. So, for all you anal sluts, I am once again happy to train and violate you this way... 🙂

Same Day Availability

Secondly, I am going to start offering same day sessions, with some caveats. I will need at least 3 hours notice, and I will need a small deposit sent prior to Me travelling into the chambers to see you (unless of course you are a loyal, regular serving slave). I do not want to waste time travelling into the dungeon for no show slaves when I could instead be at home filming, editing or webcamming. For those genuine subs amongst you, I doubt a little gift voucher to prove you are worthy of My attention will deter you.

If you want a same day session, then I suggest calling Me to check I am available. It would still be most helpful if you could fill out My slave application form prior to the start of your session, but perhaps do so after you have already confirmed I can accommodate your session.

Double Domme Sessions

Lastly, I am now offering Double Domme sessions with My dear friend Mistress Pomf! A little about Her in Her own words...

"I am American professional Dominatrix Mistress Pomf. With divine features, a voice like velvet that simultaneously soothes, titillates, and claws into you, and a mind trained in the art of domination, I will leave you floating in the ecstasy of submission. My greatest enjoyment is derived from My expertise in the art of humiliation and mindfucking, although I delight in giving physical punishments to My pain sluts. My style is unpredictable, ranging from brilliant verbals to the eerie power of silence.  I am often described as a sadist with the dirtiest laugh and most devilish smile."

You can find out more about Her on Her own website here...

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If you are brave enough to commit to a Double Domme session, get in touch with either of Us to see if We will allow you the chance to serve...

My next blog is going to be a Q&A blog, as I have previously done on Twitter. If you have a burning question you would like to ask Me, feel free to respond on there.

Until next time…
 

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Mistress Lola Ruin is a deliciously kinky Professional Dominatrix. With over 8 years experience, She therefore holds all of Her sessions at a fully equipped playspace in Manchester. She is a truly world class Domme. As one of the finest Dominas in the North West, Mistress Lola Ruin is especially selective about who She allows in Her Dungeon. Read all Her FemDom exploits on Her Blog. Drool over Her gallery of Pro-Domme photos. Read testimonials written by Her loyal slaves. Lola Ruin also loves to visit London to offer Domination sessions to submissives in the capital. Sign up to Her mailing list and be told of tour dates. Domme Lola Ruin loves all kinds of BDSM play, especially adores Ruined Orgasms, Latex and Foot worship fetishes. A well-known Clips4Sale Mistress, She consequently loves to film Female Domination content for Her loyal subs. Request your own custom clip from Her here.

Until next time...

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Ask Me Anything Q&A…

Ask Me Anything Q&A...

By MistressLolaRuin September 13, 2016

Today's blog is a Q&A, with questions submitted by My twitter followers.

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A Twitter Q&A Session

 At what age did you realise your calling to dominate the weak male, and how?
I think I have always had a Dominant side, and was always told as a little girl that I was too bossy. Pretty much as soon as I became interested in sex I also became interested in kink (foot fetishism in particular fascinated Me, and was very much a 'gateway fetish'...). I then began a relationship with a wonderful guy who identified as sub, and this was My first real introduction to more traditional D/s. Although we have since parted ways, I remained Domme 🙂
How long have you been hooping?
I've been hooping for about a year. I have a lot to learn still and sadly not quite as much time to practice anymore. I'd love to learn acro/acroyoga, contact juggling too!

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Thailand Beach Makes for the Perfect Hooping Backdrop


How many dommes do you think are into it only for the money, as opposed to at least partly for genuine enthusiasm for BDSM?
I think it would be incredibly hard to really do well at this job, and therefore earn a lot of money, unless you have a genuine interest and understanding of BDSM. Having said that, I have met a fair few Dommes who do not identify as lifestyle players. They are still amazing Dommes. On a slight tangent, I can understand why to our slaves our enjoyment/a genuine interest in BDSM is important, but in general the empowerment rhetoric around sex work really irks Me. Everyone who charges money for what they are doing are doing it for the money. A genuine enjoyment or passion for that is a bonus, in any line of work.
Do you do medical sessions do you like and have any nurse uniforms?
Of course I love to cater for medical fetishes. It ties in so well to so many of My favourite fetishes, ruined orgasm being the most obvious one. I have a couple of nurses uniforms but I am currently looking to upgrade to a new one (very light blue, vintage style latex uniform). No doubt I will post some pictures once it has arrived...

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New Nurses Uniform Coming Soon...

What's your favourite aspect when you administer a feminization/sissification session?
I love the process of feminisation, not just in the physical sense but also in the mental sense. As they take on the more feminine clothes, they also take a more feminine role. I love to work out what 'kind' of sissy they are... slutty, girly, shy, confident... This feminine persona can differ so drastically from both their 'vanilla' persona and 'male sub' persona. That particular aspect of transformation is fascinating to Me.
Have you done edging shoejobs with your heel soles rubbing it close to exploding but not allowing relief/rubbed a cock with heels soles and as he is about to cum you step hard on cock with heels stoping it/rubbed a cock with heel soles then as he cums you kick his balls with heels giving painful gasm?
Yes I have done all of those things. I am not going to elaborate here. If you want some wanking material, My Clips4Sale Store has plenty 😉 Here are some previews of some of My latest and upcoming clips... 





 


Ur most important trait in subs and Y: finance, obedience, humor, appearance(include sexiness), openness, or endurance?

Obedience and Openess would likely be the most important to Me. In order to session with Me, a sub must naturally possess both of these qualities. Finance is important insofar as they need to be able to pay for the time they spend with Me. Spoiling Me or showering Me with gifts, although lovely, is never mandatory and so that aspect isn't important. As O/our relationship develops, I would expect their endurance levels to also increase. Appearance does not matter to Me in the slightest when it comes to sessioning slaves (but a piece of submissive eye candy is always a bonus!) 
I didn't get a chance to answer all of the questions I was sent, so I will likely repeat a Q&A in the future. 
Follow Me if you want to get involved next time... @LolaRuin
Until next time…

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Make Me Happy…

Make Me Happy...

By MistressLolaRuin September 3, 2016

Today I thought I would write a blog about some of the small ways you can strive to make Me happy.

Little ways to Serve Me...

Some of you blog readers are loyal sessioning and personal slaves. Some of you admire Me from afar through My webcam/phone sessions and clips. Maybe you just come here to perv over My photos whilst you gather up the courage to come and see Me. No matter what your level of servitude or admiration of Me is, here are a few small things you can do to make Me smile...

Realise that My time is precious
Alongside all My real-time/webcam/phone sessions, I also do all My own administration and book keeping. I manage everything to do with My Clips, including filming, editing and uploading to My various stores. My website was completely built from scratch, and is now maintained, by Me. I don’t outsource any aspect of My business… It's almost as though I don't like the idea of giving up control 😉
So, when I am sent a 1000 word ‘introductory’ email, none of which actually specifies how you might like to serve Me, it doesn't get My attention. In all likelihood will get glossed over and ignored so, for your own benefit too, be succinct in your communication to Me. Make it easy for Me to respond to you. 
(This is not to say I don’t like building a relationship with My various slaves. Once you have proven yourself as a worthy submissive, then you will get more of My attention. Until then, keep it respectful, short and sweet.)
Promote Me
Twitter is now the only social media account I have, and if you like what I post then post it onto your own followers. A sweet retweet is a super easy way to make Me smile. Or perhaps you frequent some other social sites or forums. Feel free to recommend Me there too, whether that be for sessions or My video clips. Helping Me to gain more followers and fans is always appreciated.

Latest Twitter Silliness.... Click on the picture to go to My twitter page!


Write a Testimonial
I recently added a Testimonials Page to My website, and some of My most loyal minions have already contributed. If you would like to submit one, please go ahead and email Me one. It doesn't need to be War and Peace... just a paragraph will suffice. My only real tip is to try to talk about your own personal experience. I have read so many reviews which are addressed to the ‘slave readers’ and sound practically like adverts, which I could write Myself. I personally find hearing about what your servitude to Me has done for you personally so much more engaging.
Treat Me
I feel like this blog would be missing the obvious if I didn’t draw your attention to My Wishlist Page. I am not particularly materialistic, but if you enjoy buying gifts for your Goddess then please do feel free to spoil Me. It is always nice to come home from sessions to a surprise Amazon package, or to wake up to an Email Giftcard from an admirer who wanted to treat Me (regardless of how substantial or insubstantial the gift is).
Learn My own Kinks, and Improve
Perhaps if you have read some of My ancient and since long gone blog posts, you will already know how much I love My feet worshipped. This makes it all the more sad when a slave simply slobbers all over them like a dog. After recently gaining an interest in massage, I have already begun writing an entire blog post dedicated to foot worship advice. It’s something I want to research a little more thoroughly before publishing though, so watch this space.
Some other examples... of course, ruined orgasms spring to mind! You can practise them yourself at home (just the thought of you doing that makes Me happy). And of course My love of latex... learn how to properly wash and care for it, then do it for Me. Bliss.

A foot worship blog coming soon...


Listen intuitively and use your initiative
Look for little things you can improve in My life. Immediately offer to help out, or better yet, help out and let Me know once you have. Compile Me a CD of beautiful, session friendly music if you hear Me say I am sick to death of Enigma. Bring Me a new pair of stockings if you notice a ladder in the pair I am wearing. This kind of servitude impresses Me no end. When My slave begins to notice small ways to improve My life, and instinctively does so.

In servitude...

Of all My submissives, My favourites are the ones who do all of the above. These slaves go above and beyond their 'play time' servitude to Me. My career has become more successful as they work hard to make My life easier. They strive to make My life happier in every possible way. They spoil Me completely, and not simply in a financial sense. And I very much enjoy spoiling them in return. My very best submissives get the very best of Me.
Until next time…

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Behind the scenes…

Behind the scenes...

By MistressLolaRuin August 26, 2016

Today I thought I would take you 'behind the scenes' of both My work and play.

Late last week I travelled down to the infamous English Mansion after being invited to a FemDom Garden party, hosted by the wonderful Mistress Sidonia. Also attended by Mistress Evilyne and Mistress Annalieza, We were served and entertained by 5 very lucky subbies (or perhaps you would class them as unlucky considering how cruel all Us ladies are...?)

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With the fabulously wicked Mistress Evilyne and Mistress Annalieza...

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Before the Garden Party was in full swing, with sub sophie

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With Mistress Sidonia, Mistress Evilyne, sub sophie and Mistress Annalieza...

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The Aftermath...


Of course, all of Our antics were captured on video (along with other scenes I filmed whilst there), and will be available on The English Mansion Website soon...

 

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After the garden party I stayed over at the Mansion, then early the next morning rushed off to meet up with My sister at a small yoga festival close by. Outside of Domming I have many vanilla interests of which yoga comes pretty near the top of the list, perhaps this will be a surprise to those of you who think I live in latex and thigh boots!

 

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En route to a rainy festival... PVC perverts rejoice!

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My first class of the festival... can you spot Me?

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Body painting yoga anatomy class...

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Final day of the festival, soothing aching muscles in a hot tub with My sister...


After a night pampering Myself in a hotel, I finally made the long journey back up North to Manchester. Naturally, My slaves there were patiently waiting for My return.

It seems I am very much living by a 'work hard, play hard' motto right now. Not only do I adore My work, I also adore how it allows Me the luxury of being able to take time off to pursue other pleasures.

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One final piece of eye candy, snapped between scenes at The English Mansion...


My downtime is very precious to Me. Being a Domme can be very psychologically draining, especially so when you are also lifestyle like Myself. During very busy periods I have previously been close to burning out, and so I make of point of both limiting the amount of sessions I take per day as well as really 'unplugging' when I take time off. I feel fully focused and present during My time with slaves when I have quality downtime, but it also makes Me feel happier and healthier overall. 

I feel very lucky to have such a great balance in My life. Thank you to all My slaves, submissives and fans for contributing to that 🙂

Until next time…

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An Anniversary…

An Anniversary...

By MistressLolaRuin May 9, 2016

I just realised this past weekend that I passed a milestone in My career as a Professional Dominatrix… the anniversary of when I first started working at My very first Dungeon. It seems fitting to write a blog to reflect and celebrate 🙂

The first photo of Me to ever appear online, a candid shot from before I became a PD. Some things (like My addiction to rubber) never change...
The first photo of Me to ever appear online, a candid shot from before I became a PD. Some things (like My addiction to rubber) never change...

I adore what I do for a living, and I think the past year in particular I have fallen in love with it all over again. Before I became a Domme, I worked an awful minimum wage call centre job, which was the only job I could get after graduating into a recession. The anti-sex work brigade always cite ‘economic coercion’ as a major reason why people enter the adult industry (personally I'm pretty sure anyone who has a job is economically coerced into it...), and whilst it was true that it was certainly the best career choice available to Me financially, it was also the most fun, exciting, interesting, stimulating, flexible… I could go on and on. Even now years later, when I could conceivably find another profession much more easily than I could as a recent graduate, I wouldn't want to.
 

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A shot from My first professional photoshoot. I hadn't started showing My face yet.

Don’t get Me wrong, there have been a few lows… when long serving, loyal slaves have moved on or been dismissed, when the government brings out legislation without consultation or warning that seriously impacts you, and when the slew of time-wasters that all Us Dommes have to put up with have outnumbered the sessions. When the work just isn’t there it can be pretty disheartening, and when you are in a sense selling yourself, it’s hard not to take those quiet spells personally. Not to mention the social stigma that can be attached to working in the adult industry... How that affects what friends/families/strangers/society think of you, how dating can be a minefield, how it can affect your future career choices and all the associated issues people working in My industry face (and on which I could write a dissertation about...)
 

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A snapshot from one of My very first clips when I started regularly filming for My C4S Store

But… the highs by far outnumber those lows, and the truth is that I LOVE My job. It has allowed Me to do so many incredible things, and I have ticked off some amazing goals I had, both professional and personal. I've travelled and toured internationally. I opened My clip store and consequently filmed for the amazing English Mansion, whom were so lovely to Me. I’ve met so many interesting and inspiring people professionally (both Dommes and subs) and personally I’ve slowly surrounded Myself with the most incredible group of friends whom accept what I do and are proud of Me for doing it. I’ve supported and cared for family members through tough times, which I absolutely would not have been able to do in any other job. I’ve been bought wonderful gifts by wonderfully generous slaves. It has allowed Me to be incredibly independent, and given Me financial freedom. I have become more confident, happy, self-assured...
And of course, I have had a ridiculous amount of kinky fun!
 

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A snapshot from when I filmed for the fabulous English Mansion last year... go check out all their amazing content here!

I also think that what I do is important, in it’s own way... I am sure a fair few of My subs agree with that sentiment. I have blogged before about how therapeutic I think BDSM can be, and I still very much believe that to be true. I love the idea that I create a safe space where My subs can relinquish control and explore aspects of their sexuality they otherwise wouldn't be able to. Doing that gives Me a real sense of fulfilment, which I am not sure another job could offer Me.
 

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One of the most recent photos of Me, a quick snap between sessions a few weeks ago...

So to all My slaves, subs, clips fans, and of course all you loyal blog readers, thank you for your continued support. It means a lot 🙂
 
Choose a job you love, and never work a day in your life…
 
Until next time…

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