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Be sure to take the time to read through all of my Session Etiquette, and confirm you have done so via the form below. This page includes details on all my protocols and advice on how to have the best possible experience!

The Morning of Your Session...

1 : You must contact me via text or Whatsapp on 07494 793 869 to confirm your appointment at the time I have specified to you in emails

If you do not contact me before the agreed time then I will assume you will not be attending your session and make other plans. If it will be difficult for you to get in touch at the time specified, tell Me and advise a different time when you would be able to. Failure to confirm on time will also result in losing your deposit. I will then also confirm with you and provide directions via text or Whatsapp in response to your message, so be aware of this if you need discretion.

2. After you have heard back from me that I have received your confirmation, then send the remaining session balance via bank transfer to the same account details provided when you paid the deposit. Be sure to do this before arrival as I will be unable to begin your session before it arrives and mobile signal at my playspace is unreliable.
If you paid your deposit via an International Transfer, then bring the outstanding balance in cash as International transfers can take up to a week to show in my account

More Useful Information...

  • Planning Your Journey

I will give you the full address/directions when you confirm your session, however if you wish to plan your journey, the following locations will give you an accurate idea of your travel time.

Manchester Sessions: Ashton-Under-Lyne Railway Station (Postcode OL6 6JP).
The chambers are only a 2 minute drive or a 5 minute walk from there.

London Sessions: Baker Street Underground Station (Postcode NW1 5LJ).
The playspace is only a few minutes walk from there.

  • Parking

There is usually ample free street parking available nearby. If driving, I will give you instructions on how to first locate my playspace, and then instruct you to go park around the corner as keeping cars on the small side street my playspace is on to a minimum will keep the neighbouring businesses happy.

  • Punctuality

Please arrive at the chambers at the agreed time, ideally neither early or late. If you think are going to be late, let Me know as soon as possible. I schedule plenty of time between My submissives, however if you are more than 10 minutes late I may have to cut your session short so as not to impact on any of My subsequent plans that day.

  • Plan An Extra 30 Minutes

Schedule to be at the chambers for an extra 30 minutes on top of the time you have booked for. As an example, if you booked a 1 hour session for 14.00, you will be leaving My chambers around 15.30.

I do not operate a ‘revolving door’ policy, it is paramount to Me that W/we are both able to enjoy your session fully without any rushing. This extra 30 minutes allows U/us ample time to discuss your fantasies prior to play, and time for you to shower and refresh afterwards. If you need to be leaving the chambers by a certain time, advise Me as soon as possible so I can make sure you are getting away on time

  • Discretion

Whilst the entrance is in a courtyard set back from the main road and I am fortunate not to have any nosy neighbours overlooking the entrance, it is incredibly importance that My chambers are treated with respect and discretion.

Do not loudly call Me ‘Mistress’ on My doorstep, or ask neighbours for directions to ‘The Playspace’. Be sure to arrive in vanilla clothes (if you wish to wear fetish clothes for O/our session, you can change into them once you have arrived). Whilst I do love to receive gifts/flowers, it would be appreciated if you could bring these in discreet packaging.

Whilst I am your Mistress in the safe space of My dungeon, I also understand that your servitude to Me may be a secret which requires discretion. Rest assured that should I ever see you out in a public place I would never approach or acknowledge you. I ask that you also observe this should you ever spot Me. However, if you see Me at a fetish party, you are welcome to come say hello!

Any submissive who does not approach me and my playspace with the utmost discretion will have their session cancelled and be blacklisted immediately

  • COVID 19 / Illness

As of January 2024, I have relaxed my COVID policies and so no longer ask for lateral flow tests as standard. However, if you are showing any symptoms of any illness, including COVID, please do not go ahead with your session. I will happily reschedule your session per my cancelation policy below.

I am also aware that for immunocompromised people/those who care for the vulnerable, COVID is still a concern. I am more than happy to take a lateral flow myself the morning of your session if that would help set your mind at ease, just let me know via email. 

Subdrop

Subdrop can be roughly described as "a state of physical, emotional, and psychological withdrawal following an intense interaction". Whilst this usually causes no problems and shouldn't be a concern, it is something to be aware of should you feel a little withdrawn or down following O/our session. 

If you find yourself struggling with subdrop, you may find this blog post I've written helpful. This experience is not dissimilar to a hangover or comedown, so rest assured it will soon pass. You are welcome to get in touch with Me after your session to talk through any subdrop if you wish.

  • Personal Toys and/or Clothes

Feel free to bring along any of your own personal toys you wish to play with.

If you haven't already, do advise Me of any specific equipment you would like Me to have ready. You are also more than welcome to bring your own fetish clothes, for either you or for Me, if you so wish!

  • Temperature

I always heat My dungeon room well, as I much prefer sessioning in heat. However, this can sometimes be difficult to control especially in changeable weather, if at any point during your session you are either too hot or too cold, just let Me know. I do not want you to be distracted by temperature during O/our play time.

  • Don't Come On An Empty Stomach

The experience of seeing a Professional Dominant can be an intense experience, especially for novices. A few times My subs have fainted during their sessions, usually due to not having eaten anything beforehand.This is obviously scary for all involved and really disrupts the flow of a session, so be sure to eat a light meal sometime in the couple of hours preceding your session.

  • Anal Play / Strap On

Douching is a requirement for anal play

In order to include this in O/our session you must clean yourself (douche) around 2 hours before W/we meet. If you have never done this before, click here to see an instructional video. You can order the douche in the video by clicking here, you will see there are many different types, even ones you can attach to your shower hose.

I always begin anal play with smaller toys before working up to larger. If you are not clean at any point, I will end the anal play immediately

Please respect me and yourself by abiding to this rule.

My Cancellation Policy...

I understand that sometimes things come up which are outside of your control and you may need to cancel your session with Me. I even understand that sometimes first time submissives may get cold feet.
Regardless of the reason why you wish to cancel, the more notice of a cancellation you can give Me the better.

The first time you cancel, I will transfer your deposit to a future session booked within the next month. However, I will not apply this to any future cancellations

Whilst not mandatory, if you are cancelling with less than 24 hours notice a small Amazon gift card sent to My email is a thoughtful way to show you consider My time valuable, and that you understand I have likely turned down other paid sessions in order to schedule yours

Thank you for taking the time to familiarise yourself with My session etiquette, which will no doubt contribute to O/our session running smoothly. Rest assured that I adore creating a safe space for you to explore your fantasies and sexuality under My expert guidance!

Should you have any questions regarding any of the points I have listed above, do not hesitate to get in touch either over email at mistress@lolaruin.com

Please confirm you have read this page in full below (be sure to use the same name and email as you have booked your session through so I can cross reference)