Orgasm Control, Edging Tips and Enjoyment

Orgasm Control, Edging Tips and Enjoyment...

By MistressLolaRuin | Jan 30, 2021

On the joys of Orgasm Control…

My Manchester Playspace - The Perfect FemDom Edging Tease

Just imagine being strapped down tightly in my playspace. Naked on my leather bench, your body pulled taunt by the rope I’ve laced you into. Blindfolded and vulnerable, all you can hear is the gentle tapping of my high heels, circling you like prey. You feel some cold, liquid lubricant slowly drip on your cock. You hear my evil laugh pierce the silence as I watch you squirm from the shock of it. Then, you feel something slide onto you, and rhythmically start stroking you. I tell you its my favourite toy, The Venus 2000.

‘This allows me to control your pleasure with just the touch of a dial...’

I demonstrate by turning it up, and you arch upwards and deeper into it as you’re flooded with the sensation. Then, I begin to toy with you. The Venus fluctuates it speed up and down and I turn the dial. Grindingly, teasingly slow all the way up to furious pumping. You sink deeper into a submissive bliss, losing all control to me as you begin inching ever closer to that incredible explosion of pleasure you crave so much. And then, just as you reach the very edge, right on the cusp of what you know will be a mind blowing orgasm…. I STOP. Your body freezes, suspended in frustration for me.

‘My poor little submissive… you didn’t think it was going to be that easy did you? You need to remember, I own your cock now. Let’s start right from the beginning, all over again…’

You are at once totally deflated by this denial, and indescribably excited for me to continue. You hope that maybe this time, I might allow you some release, but you also know you won’t find out what my intentions are until the very last second…

…This, dear readers, is why I love Orgasm Control.
It is the ultimate mind fuck.

Of course, the ways in which I can control that orgasm are varied, ranging from total, repeated denial right through to multiple forced orgasms, milking you under you are completely dry. Each one serves it own purpose in training you to be the very best toy for me you can possibly be.

Types of Orgasm Control, Denial and Edging

Chastity Play

So much of BDSM is about memory. The anticipation as you apply for a session. Your imagination running wild about what might happen after I have accepted you. Then comes the day itself, the nervous butterflies and the experience of being totally present in your body, thoughtless whilst in my company. The weeks after you spend replaying it whilst masturbating furiously. The memories slowly fade, as do whatever marks I may have bestowed upon you…

Chastity is an wonderful way to prolong this. Not only do I decide what you experience when in my playspace, but now I also own your cock 24/7. Unlike those marks that may fade away, or the memories that become blurrier with time, the tight cage encasing you will serve as a constant reminder of your servitude. A constant reminder that your pleasure belongs to me now, your orgasm is totally under my control. Only when I decide to unlock you will you be free again.

Edging and Orgasm Denial

Repeatedly denying your pleasure is another form of orgasm control I use in most of my sessions. Not only will it make total denial even more unbearable, or any eventual orgasm I allow much more powerful (unless of course I decide to ruin… more on that later), but for many of you it seems to push you even deeper into submission for me. As a Domme, I find this both useful, and endlessly entertaining.

Occasionally, I like to begin my sessions by instructing you to edge yourselves a few times right away whilst at my feet. Let’s start as we mean to go on. With each edging, I can see your headspace deepening even more, watching you falling further under my spell. And of course, frustrated boys are always more obedient. So many of you beg me, saying you will do literally anything for a pay off. It’s constantly amusing to me how much more subservient you become when your pleasure is literally hanging in the balance.

Ruined Orgasm

I’ve spoken at length about ruined orgasms before, and it is truly the ultimate mind fuck. To build your excitement up and up, pushing you further and further towards release before withdrawing all stimulation at the very last second… laughing as you watch the sad, unsatisfying orgasm pathetically dribble out of your cock whilst experiencing none of the usual release. Such sweet psychological torment.

I especially love mixing this in with other forms of orgasm control. Just imagine spending a long month in chastity for me. That cage growing tighter everyday as your desire grows to serve me. Then, I unlock you and edge you 20 times in a row, each one even more teasing than the last. Then finally, I say I will allow you a pay off. You have taken orgasm control so well, I will allow you release… only to abandon it at the last second. So delightfully cruel.

And best of all, we can do it over and over again. The secret to the male multiple orgasm is in repeatedly ruining you at just the right moment…

Forced Orgasm and Milking

Dare I say, my least favourite of all forms of orgasm control, for obvious reasons. I much prefer denying your pleasure than allowing you any at all. I enjoy watching you squirm and beg. But, occasionally, I do like to reward my boys should they have done enough to earn it.

Though I may allow you such pleasure, this is naturally still totally under my control. You will only experience this pleasure should I so decide, and as you know I could change my mind at the very last second and still ruin you (teasing you about that throughout the entire build up, lest you forget). Or, even worst…

Post Orgasm Torment

You know how everything becomes ultra-sensitive right after you orgasm? That makes it exactly the perfect moment to inflict some pain upon you. Whether that be as punishment for earlier infractions, or maybe just to immediately pay for the pleasure you enjoyed… nothing stings more than some post orgasm torment.

This could just be as simple and continuing to stroke, the exact same stroking that just gave you so much pleasure now melting away and feeling painfully intense. Or maybe a few little well times flicks of my stiletto nails right into those extra sensitive balls? Or a few strikes of a whip across your cock to help it deflate even faster… Watching you switch immediately from pleasure to pain is always hysterical in the cruellest way possible.

I wonder, dear reader, if you love orgasm control as much as I do? It doesn’t really matter either way, because you will learn to love it if you wish to please me. And the best way to please me is to practise yourself.

I want you pick one of the above, and do it to yourself the next time you masturbate. Whether that be a month in chastity, 10 edgings in a row, a few ruined orgasms spread throughout the day or inflicting some pain on yourself as soon as you release. All the time remembering that I control your orgasms now.

I know it’s not quite the same when you do it to yourself. But, you can just imagine you’re strapped down tightly in my playspace instead…

Until next time,

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Tameside Sex Dungeon Dominatrix Playspace Manchester

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By MistressLolaRuin June 16, 2020

I spent many years working in shared Dungeon premises, but opening my own personal playspace was a dream for a long time. To have the freedom to create premises which reflected my own taste and was constructed especially for my own slaves... Finally, that dream became a reality in 2017.

Just a few minutes walk from Ashton Under Lyne centre, my personal playspace is a portal into another world... a gorgeous and bespoke space created entirely to serve as the setting for your deepest and darkest fantasies.

A conversion of an industrial unit, the white brick are adorned with candles and coloured lights, allowing to change the ambience to suit even the most demanding scenes. Filled with heavy steel and black leather furniture, and packed to the brim with every piece of kinky equipment imaginable (more on that below), here your expectations will be exceeded. The walls are embellished with two of my favourite Artists, the delightfully erotic Carolyn Weltman and the incomparable Sardax. Of course, a loud sound system will both fill the room with whatever music I deem best for your scene, and will help to drown out your squeals.

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Dominatrix Submission - Slave Application

Every last detail of my dungeon has been meticulously curated with my submissives pain and pleasure in mind... begin your deliciously deep experince and Apply Today to join me in my exlusive playspace.

My chambers are incredibly well served by all Manchester transport links, with the Railway Station, Bus Station and Metrolink all only a 5 minute walk away, and just short 15 minute journey from Manchester city centre. For submissives who drive, my playspace is surrounded by ample free parking in an industrial area. You will enter my realm through a door tucked away in a private courtyard... keeping the most timid amongst you safe in the knowledge there will be no nosey curtain twitching neighbours clocking you entering or leaving my playspace.

Of course, most exciting of all in my playspace is the equipment!

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My playroom is packed to the brim with every piece of kinky kit you could dream of. Alongside the standard heavier furniture such as bondage bed, A Frame, Cage an so on, I have all the smaller implements you crave... whips, gags and clamps galore! A more extensive list of my equipment can be found here, but for now, allow me to give you a deeper introduction to 3 of my favourite toys...

Venus Milking Machine
This is my absolute favourite toy bar none. With variable settings and recievers to get exactly the right fit for your milking, the sensation can range from achingly slow to making you cum within seconds! Just imagine me being able to control your pleasure and frustration with a turn of the dial...

F-Machine Gigolo Fucking Machine
One of the top rated machines available, the Gigolo is totally customisable to suit everyone, from the nervous beginner to the experienced strap on sluts! Perhaps we can introduce you with a sensual start before cranking it up to it's impressive top speeds... Best of all, an adaptor means I can use ANY of my extensive dildo collection, and the remote control allows me to subject you to even more forms of torment whilst this Fuck Machine works its magic...

MasterMindCrafts Smother Box
For the facesitting aficinados amongst you, this can smother you like never before. Head clamps allow me to lock you exactly into place, and an inflatable pillow means I can pump you up to exactly the right height to be totally at my mercy, buried between my cheeks...

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Alongside my dedicated playroom, my premises also boast...

A Large, 'Art Deco' Reception Room
The perfect space for those of you seeking either a more 'domestic' or homely setting for your fantasies, this is also the perfect place to wind down with a cup of coffee after our play time. This room is home to a large sofa adorned with velvet cushions, candles, mood lighting and a widescreen TV.

A Small Bathroom
With toilet and a shower, plus an abundance of freshly laundered towels and all the toiletries you could possibly want, such as shampoo, condition, shower gel, toothpaste and brushes, deoderant and mouthwash.

A Kitchenette
Always stocked with a selection of different coffees, teas, small snacks and juices, along with kettle, toaster, fridge, freezer. Perfect for my extended experiences!

Manchester Mistress : Dominatrix Lola Ruin

Manchester Mistress : Dominatrix Lola Ruin...

By MistressLolaRuin Mar 9, 2020

For those searching for a Manchester Mistress, there is no better Dominatrix than Mistress Lola Ruin. She is truly a world class Domina, who revels in teasing and tormenting her slaves. A femme fatale who is educated, glamorous and feminine. If you crave to be trained under the guise of a sophisticated woman, then your journey can begin right here...

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Where do we begin? Lola Ruin first began her journey as a Domme almost a decade ago, just a year after graduating from a Psychology University degree, with a focus on feminism and human sexuality... the perfect education for a Dominatrix! She was soon taking her first training sessions at the infamous Manchester Dungeon in Bury. Here she was under the guidance of some of the best Manchester Mistresses, many of whom still session today.

Since then, Lola Ruin has cultivated a wealth of kinky experience and expertise. After 9 years full time as a Professional Dominatrix, she is a master at getting into the minds of her slaves.

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Manchester Dungeon Playspace - Personal Chambers

After 7 years renting a dungeon room in shared chambers, Domina Lola decided to pour all her passions into her own personal playspace two years ago. Since then, she has curated her space into the most incredible, atmospheric dungeon, the perfect setting to help you float away in submissive bliss... Her sessions are often described as cathartic, transcendental and above all else, fun!

Her Tameside dungeon is easily accessible by both car and public transport. Only a 5 minute walk from the local train station, metrolink tram stop and bus station. There will be no last minute parking panic for those who drive to see her, as her chambers are surrounded with an abundance of free parking.

Bespoke Equipment in a Discreet Location - Sole Ownership

As well as being a reflection of her own personal taste and decor, a personal playspace allows Lola Ruin complete freedom over her sessions. Mistress Lola is the only one who uses any of the equipment. As a result, there is a high standard of cleanliness and hygiene. A private dungeon allows a level of discretion unmatched by shared chambers. As one of the only Manchester Mistresses to boast their own private playroom, this is a testament to her professionalism and success.

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Dominatrix Philosophy - Healing power of BEDM

Unlike many Dominatrices, Lola Ruin does not enjoy cruelly beating her slaves into submission. Rather, she prefers to lull you into a false sense of security. To seduce you into revealing your fantasies to her. She will train you to the utmost standards, whilst tormenting you mercilessly along the way. Above all, Manchester Mistress Lola believe in the healing power of BDSM. Ultimately, she wants her slaves to feel transformed by their time serving under her tutelage. A short browse over her testimonials will demonstrate that she cares deeply about her submissives.

Domination - A Sensual Domme in Orgasm Control

Although Lola Ruin loves to enjoy in a plethora of kinky activities, her forte is Sensual Domination. Lola Ruin offers the best orgasm control sessions, ruined orgasms and extended milking experiences. If you are looking for a sensual Dominatrix in Manchester, Mistress Lola Ruin is the best Domme to serve.

To Toy and Torment Exploiting Your Weaknesses

Lola Ruin is a devilishly kinky Domme with almost a decade of both technical and psychological experience under her belt. She is truly one of the very best Mistresses in Manchester. She will toy with you and tease you, she will torment you to her hearts content, and she will use your arousal as a weakness to exploit for her own pleasure.

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London Sessions and UK Nationwide Travel

Although predominantly a Manchester Mistress, Lola Ruin also takes regular tours to London. Here she undertakes all manner of kinky play in a private, excellently equipped dungeon in Central London. Mistress Lola will also consider outcall requests to anywhere in Manchester, or further afield in the UK. For the most generous admirers, she will even consider international travel.

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Alongside sessions, Mistress Lola Ruin loves to film fetish content! Having previously visited The English Mansion many times, they host some incredible content including Virtual Reality experiences! Her own content is also available for sales on Clips4Sale, IWantClips and OnlyFans, for those too timid to serve her at her Manchester Dungeon.

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Locked Up for Lola Ruin – Part 4…

Locked Up for Lola Ruin - Part 4...

By MistressLolaRuin May 10, 2019

Manchester Dominatrix Mistress Lola Ruin loves to sensually Dominate her subs, and especially to control their pleasure... learn more about a Chastity slaves experience under her expert lock and key!

Chastity Diary
Day 14

It’s getting towards evening on New Year’s Eve. I’m spending it quietly, and I’ve used it as an opportunity to spend almost the whole day walking around in just my chastity cage. It’s not only more comfortable that way, it also helps to remind me of the state I’ll be in during my session with Mistress Lola (although I haven’t been crawling around on the floor to complete the picture).

There are only three days left before O/our session and apart from dwelling on the frustration of having been denied an orgasm for so long I can also start wondering whether Mistress Lola will allow me to have one, and what price (probably measured in can strokes!) I will have to pay for it. Right now it feels like She wouldn’t even have to remove the cage to provoke me into having a ruined orgasm…

Chastity Diary
Day 15

Having stayed awake to see in the new year last night, and having woken up at more or less a normal time this morning, only a few hours seemed to have passed from watching Mistress Lola’s video when settling into bed to watching it again before getting up. It’s been an easy routine to get used to. Maybe I’m just feeling quite compliant; I’m certainly feeling very attentive.

Chastity Diary
Day 16

I’ve just spent the day thinking about my session with Mistress Lola constantly. I actually watched more than my mandated three video clips today (and I still haven’t watched the clip for this evening!). I still have the compulsion to seek out that sort of stimulation even though I know I cannot do much with the energy it fosters. I suppose that’s the emotional paradox at the centre of chastity training: having to constrain a desire that it becomes harder and harder to ignore over time.

As much as I think I’m possessed of a good store of willpower under most circumstances, I think one thing has become clear to me over the last couple of weeks or so: without being locked in this cage I’m not sure I would have coped with the demands of the experience. I hardly notice it now, and I imagine (I know) it will feel a little strange not to wear it.

Chastity Diary
Day 17

I’m writing this very late in the day on my last day locked in chastity before I see Mistress Lola. I didn’t sleep too well last night, waking up early (again!) thinking about the session and wondering what Mistress Lola has in store for me. All I know for sure is that I will start the session where I belong, worshipping Her feet. Having in the past been let out of chastity during a session only to be locked up again after it, I can’t know for sure whether Mistress Lola will unlock me, whether She will allow me an orgasm, or anything else.

I can’t express how much I love being under Her control, though, whatever She intends to do to me tomorrow, and that feels like an appropriate sentiment on which to leave this diary entry: the best, most definitive part about being locked in chastity is giving up control to the Mistress I adore.

To be continued...

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The Idiots Guide to Worshipping Pussy

The Idiots Guide to Worshipping Pussy...

By MistressLolaRuin May 3, 2019

I bet if you're reading this blog post, you've watched porn at some point in your life. I've defended porn many times in the past. But, there is one aspect of porn which I cannot defend, and that is the serious lack of female sexual pleasure, and especially the depiction of GOOD pussy worship and outstanding cunnilingus.

Rarely in mainstream pornography do I see a woman being given head, and even less do I see women being given what looks like GOOD head. The general story-line of a porno goes... woman gives head, woman gets a fucking, woman gets cum in her face... the end. You'd be forgiven for thinking based on that, that women need zero warm up for pleasurable sex and that they all find it super easy to orgasm through penetration alone (actually, only 18% of women cum through intercourse)

If you're a man reading this, and the only research you've ever done into pleasuring a woman is drawing on what you've seen men doing in mainstream porn movies, then you are FAILING your sexual partner. So, here is an idiot proof guide to pleasuring your woman, peppered with some excellent advice from my twitter followers, which will hopefully give you somewhere to start from...

A quick disclaimer before we dive in... I don't personally offer pussy worship as part of my sessions. I'm simply writing this for the good of all pussies everywhere 😉

Truly learn to love and WORSHIP pussy

First thing first... you need to learn to gain pleasure JUST from giving it to the woman you're with. And, you need to stop thinking of cunninlingus as a 'warm-up event' to a main act. For the vast majority of women whose pleasure depends on clitoral stimulation, THIS is the most important sex act, and the one most likely to rock her world and give her the earth shattering orgasm she deserves from you.

I'll let you in on a little secret. I used to HATE giving head to my boyfriends when I was a teenager. I felt under pressure to be a fantastic lover, and I was constantly worried I may not be doing it right. Too hard? Too soft? Too slow? Throw into that some hair pulling/forcing my head down onto them (oh HI more moves learned from mainstream porn!), and it was just NOT FUN.

Then, I reframed my thinking. My lovers pleasure was completely in my hands when I gave oral sex, and I was free to focus completely on them. What if I took the time and effort to learn to be good at it? I realised, this was my opportunity to BLOW THEIR MINDS.

It's a real rush, being in complete power of another persons pleasure like that. As most people reading this are probably into kink, it's worth pointing out how giving head can be both a submissive OR a Dominant act. Focusing all your energy on giving your Top complete pleasure. Or, taking your submissive's pleasure completely into your own hands. It works both ways, no matter your kinky orientation.

Focus on Pleasure, not the Goal

Most women give head without any intention of making men orgasm. They do so simply to give them pleasure, and make them feel good. When you go down, do so with the intention of giving her a pleasurable experience from start to finish. If you can make her cum, of course that's fantastic. But for many people, having that as the sole intention can put a lot of pressure on both giver and receiver. Not to mention, there are a multitude of different reasons why a woman may not be able to reach orgasm (medication, stress, menopause...). Whilst I am going to include bringing your woman to orgasm in the following instructions, you should aim to be pleasure-orientated, NOT goal orientated.

This is the mindset you should have when you worship pussy. Your aim is to completely 'let go' into the act of giving. This is your opportunity to become completely lost in the intimacy of exploring her body, discovering what she likes, taking the time to spoil her and focus solely on her pleasure. This is an experience you are sharing with her.

So, before we even begin to talk about techniques, let's delve into female anatomy...

The Anatomy of the Pussy

Quite often wrongly referred to as 'the vagina' (which is actually just the entrance), the 'vulva' is the correct medical term for female genitalia. I am going to refer to it as the pussy, and it's comprised of the following parts...

Mon Pubis - A soft mound of flesh over the pubic bone
Front Commissure - A highly sensitive area where the lips meet with the clitoris
Clitoral Hood - A hood of skin made from the meeting of the lips which covers the highly sensitive clitoral glans in a similar way to a foreskin covering the head of the penis
Clitoral Glans - Also referred to as the 'clitoris' (although it is just the only visible part of a much wider structure). Between 4-7mm large, it contains over 8000 nerve endings and is the only organ in the human body dedicated solely to sexual pleasure.
Frenulum - The inner edges of the labia minora meet to form a highly sensitive area packed with nerve endings.
Urethra - The hole where urine comes from
Labia Minora - Also known as the inner lips, they surround the clitoral glans, urethra and vaginal entrance and are packed with nerve endings and are highly sensitive
Labia Majora - Also known as the outer lips, they are less sensitive than the inner lips and swell with blood during arousal
Vagina - The entrance to the vagina
Fourchette - The bottom meeting point for the lips
Perineum - The space between the fourchette and anus, it has a network of blood and tissues and can be a good area to stimulate
Anus - If you don't know what this is, you really are an idiot... 🙂

When you are worshipping pussy, there are a LOT of hot spots you want to include, but none are more important than the Clitoris. Believe it or not, the full structure of the clitoris wasn't fully discovered until 1998.

The (internal) Anatomy of the Clitoris

Just like the vulva is often wrongly called the vagina, the word 'clitoris' is often used just to describe the 'clitoral glans'. In fact, the full structure of the clitoris is mostly internal, reaching about 7cm in length. The internal strucure is made up of...

Suspensory Ligament - Helps to retract the clitoral glans back when too sensitive and immediately before orgasm
Shaft of Clitoris - Can easily be felt, especially when aroused, and runs upwards under the front commissure towards the mons pubis
Glans - The only visible part of the clitoris
Leg - Also called 'crura', the shaft dives downwards and splits into two legs which run along the path of the labia
G-Spot / Clitoral Cluster - Around 2 inches inside the vaginal entrance on the 'ceiling', a soft spongy like tissue dense with nerve endings and connected to the clitoral network
Bulb of Clitoris - Twin bulbs of erectile tissue which surround the vaginal entrance and engorge with blood when aroused.

The clitoris is the POWERHOUSE of female sexual pleasure, and as you can see, the is actually a much larger organ than the tiny little nub (the glans) you can see and stimulate from the outside. It expands all around the pussy, including deep inside towards the G-Spot, or more accurately named 'clitoral cluster'. The clitoris is the only organ in the human body (female or male) made solely for the purpose of sexual pleasure.

Now you have a general understanding of female anatomy...

Some general DON'TS when it comes to Worshipping Pussy

  • DO NOT EVER go in straight for the clitoral glans. There are 8000 nerve endings packed into the glans, which is double the amount in your entire dick. So, imagine your dick being twice as sensitive as it is now, and then imagine all that sensitivity is condensed down into an area only 5mm big. Bearing that in mind, you want to avoid any direct contact until she is seriously warmed up and ready.
  • DO NOT use a sharp, pointy, stabby/flicky tongue motion (as seen in porn). That is great for the camera but not great for anything else.
  • DO NOT write the alphabet and expect to get her off. Women need consistency and rhythm, and clumsily making your way through your ABC's won't give her either.
  • DO NOT dive in with rough passion. The idea here is WORSHIP. That means taking all the time it needs to go slowly and savour every part. If she wants you to spend hours lapping away at her, so be it. You are here to please.
  • DO NOT motorboat the pussy. Just no. This is especially irritating if you have any kind of facial hair. We DO NOT want stubble rash.

Finally, before we delve into what you should do, a quick word on...

Gaining Consent

It would be remiss of me not to say that you should be seeking affirmative, enthusiastic consent from any woman you are with. No matter what your personal thoughts on the #MeToo movement is, it should at the very least have informed you that the vast majority of women are dealing with some kind of sexual trauma, and that you should act accordingly.

Gaining consent in a sexy way is a whole other blog post I'd love to write one day, but for now here's some general guidance on different ways to gain consent from the woman you're hoping to worship.

Every Woman is Different

Whilst below I am going to give some fairly specific advice on how to worship pussy, the best guide will always be the woman you are worshipping. You should keep lines of communication open with her at all times. Prompt her to guide you. Ask her to tell you what feels good for her. Try to read how she reacts to different techniques.

It's unlikely that everything I write here will work for every woman. You're job is to find out specifically what works for her. Every woman is different, and the below tips and tricks are simply a starting point.

Warming up to Pussy Worship

My first tip for giving great head to a woman is to take your time, even BEFORE you begin worshipping. Spend at least 10-15 minutes arousing her before you even think of using your tongue on her. Use long body-length strokes with your hands, deep french kissing, teasing stroking, slowly undressing (but leave her underwear on)...

You want to build up the anticipation. You want her body flooded with feel good chemicals before you even make your way down to pleasuring her. When stimulated, breasts and nipples release oxycotin, the 'cuddling' hormone, increasing sensitivity to touch... so you should be sure to pay attention to them. Always err on the side of gentle until you figure out how she likes it. Listen to her breathing, and let that guide your touch.

After some ample build-up, you can work your way down to worship her. The best position is her lying flat on her back on you on your front between her legs (or, alternatively, knelt on the floor with her resting on the edge of the bed). You should be prepared to spend A LOT of time worshipping her, so get comfortable. Make sure you can easily move both your hands/arms and you have plenty of room to move your face. And for god sake, have clean and well trimmed fingernails. No one wants you scratching their insides.

Even MORE warming up to Pussy Worship

Now she knows you're going to worship her, you want to tease her. Make her ACHE for your mouth. The upper inner thighs are packed with nerve endings, so start there. Plant slow, gentle kisses all over, but no where near her pussy (yet). Treat her to slow, gentle fingertip strokes. Trace your tongue gently along the outside of her underwear. The more anticipation you can build before you touch her pussy, the better.

Then, gentle kisses all over the top of her underwear, beginning at the vagina, working up over the outside lips, then finally over the front commisure/glans area. Combine all of the above with slow, exhales of hot breath. Play with different, gentle sensations. All of this should be INCREDIBLY tender, and you should be savouring every second of it (as will she!).

Now, only AFTER all this build up, should you remove her underwear, and give her what she is now longing for...

The First Lick

Keep in mind the two most important 'Don't' I listed earlier... do not dive straight into attacking the clitoral glans, and do not use a pointy, stabby tongue. You're here as a worshipper, not a woodpecker.

Start with a seriously wet tongue, and press it against the fourchette. Lick the entire length upwards with a flat tongue and gentle pressure. Ease up on that pressure as you pass over the glans, and finish when the tip on your tongue is resting on the front commisure (which will gently stimulate the clitoral shaft hidden just beneath). Then, work your way back down again. GO AS SLOW AS POSSIBLE. You've made her ache for this, so drag out that first lick as long as possible, taking the time to try and enjoy every inch of her.

Building a Rhythm

Now, you want to repeat that 'First Lick' motion over and over again. The idea here is to excite her enough that her clitoral glans become desensitised and ready for more intense attention. After you've done this for a little while, then you can inject some slight variations here and there. Some ideas include...

  • Increasing/decreasing the speed, mixing it up, but only very very slightly. Never go fast and aggressive.
  • Concentrating your tongue over to the left side, then centre again, then right side.
  • Do 'halfway' licks, skipping the upper half of her vulva altogether.
  • Using your lips to apply pressure to different parts of her as you lick.
  • At the end of a long lick, bring your lips together as though you are 'french kissing' her pussy.
  • Resting your tongue still for a few seconds every now and again.
  • Combining long licks from the bottom which then 'break contact' with her body for a couple of seconds after you have reached the top.

You want to keep those long, flat tongue licks as your 'main' move, but inject a little bit of unpredictability with the above variations.

As you are doing this, take note... What is she reacting to most? Which moves are making her moan? Does it seem she really doesn't like when you do 'x'? Pay close attention as you lavish her, discounting anything she seems not to like, and including a little more of what she does. Regardless of what she likes, your main focus should be on building a steady rhythm.

Finally, after you've really explored her, you can begin to pay attention to the clitoral glans by gently running your tongue over it as you continue worshipping her entire pussy. If she's enjoying it, begin to pay it more and more focus. If it seems like it's a little too much, go back to stimulating everywhere but, and try again after a few more minutes.

Increasing the Intensity

Once she is suitably warmed up for more intense focus on the clitoral glans, begin to slowly shift the majority of your focus there, gradually spending more and more time and attention on the upper half of her pussy.

Continue with wet, gentle, flat tongue strokes, and then begin to explore some of the variations and see what feels good for her...

  • Resting your upper lip on the front commisure, create a 'seal' with your bottom lip and apply flat, wet licks between.
  • Play around with licking direction... up and down, side to side, gentle circular motions.
  • The frenulum is nerve rich, and may also be worth paying some attention to with your tongue.
  • If she is responding well, you might even be able to add some gentle 'suckling' combined with light tongue action
  • Apply pressure using your upper lip/gum to the front commisure (which will stimulate the hidden clitoral shaft beneath) whilst your tongue works slow and steady over the clitoral glans.

As before, you want to keep a steady rhythm whilst you explore how she likes to be worshipped, all the while keeping persistent contact with her clitoral glans.

(Not so) Idle Hands

Now that your paying some well deserved attention to the clitoral glans, it's also time to get your hands involved to really up the ante. Begin by teasingly exploring her using either your index finger or your thumb. Gentle strokes along the labia, the fourchette, the vagina and the front commisure are all excellent erogenous zones, especially when combined with licks.

After a little while you can then insert a single finger, just a couple of inches. DO NOT do this roughly or too soon. Take note of how her body responds... did she moan? Did you feel her tighten around your finger? Hold it still there for a few seconds, whilst your mouth and tongue works on the upper half of her vulva. Then, begin to experiment with finger/thumb movements...

  • Gently stroke the inner walls of her vagina.
  • Experiment with a light 'swirling' motion.
  • Move your finger slightly 'in and out', with your palm making contact against her labia on the in stroke, stimulating the clitoral legs/bulbs. Think of this less as 'finger fucking' her (which can feel very clumsy), and more as though you are massaging the ceiling of her vagina.
  • Use a free finger/thumb/other hand to apply pressure to her perineum
  • Use a free finger/thumb/other hand to tease or gently tease her anus. If she responds well, she may also like you to insert a finger (make sure it's wet, and don't then use that finger anywhere else on her pussy). Always be gentle and ask for her feedback.
  • If she is responding well to a single finger, insert a second (index and middle work best, keep them glued together)
  • With your palm facing up, curl your finger(s) gently in a 'come hither' motion, massaging the ceiling of her vagina.When you do the last thing on this list, you might notice a small, spongy bump of tissue...

The G-Spot / Clitoral Cluster

You've probably heard of a G-Spot, which makes it sound like a 'separate' hot spot of pleasure, when in fact it is more accurately described as a 'Clitoral Cluster'... a bundle of nerves directly linked to the internal structure of the clitoris.

If you have truly taken your time to really arouse every part of her, it should be engorged and fairly easy to find. You do not want to 'hammer' away at it, rather apply firm pressure, using the 'come hither' motion to massage her clitoris from the inside out, or gentle circular motions.

Building Up...

So now, you've played around and experimented, and you have gradually given her more and more of what she has responded to until shes able to take some more intense attention on both the clitoral glans AND clitoral cluster. At this point, you're probably applying firm pressure using your fingers inside her, and your tongue is gently swirling over her clitoral glans.

Now, you want to UP the pressure on her clitoral glans. Increase it bit by bit, going from gentle to firm, using your upper lip/gum to also apply pressure to the front commisure as you do. This is not a case of going faster or increasing speed. Whichever way she enjoyed your tongue earlier (up and down/side to side/circular), do that now but with more pressure.

Slow and steady wins the race here boys. You do NOT need to go rampantly fast. Keeping a steady rhythm and increasing pressure is the key.

As you do this, look out for signs of...

  • Increased, deepening breath
  • Feeling her get hotter/heart racing
  • A tightening of the abdominal muscles
  • A 'tensing up' of all her muscles
  • A tightenting/pulsing of her vagina
  • Her clitoral glans 'retracting' underneath the clitoral hood

All of which are clues that she is approaching...

The Pussy Worship Orgasm

When you notice the above signs, all the sexual tension you have spent so long building is about to explode. What is most important here is to retain focus. Keep doing EXACTLY as you are doing. Be consistent and persistent. Do not speed up and DO NOT change what you are doing. Even if your face feels like it might fall off, it will be for a good cause 😉

Not all that long after, you should be able to feel her orgasm against you. At this point, keep DIRECT contact with her as much as possible. Keeping the same rhythm will help to prolong her orgasm. You should be able to feel this most around your fingers as her pelvic floor muscles squeeze you in short bursts. Most womens orgasms last around 10 - 20 seconds, and you need to keep up the pace this entire time.

Once you feel her start to slow and relax, then you should immediately relieve the pressure on her clitoral glans (if she hasn't already pushed you away!). For most women, this becomes outrageously sensitive right after orgasm, so you need to pay attention to her and ease off as she floats back down from the incredible orgasm your mouth just gave her.

Multiple Pussy Worship Orgasms

Most women are capable of multiple orgasms, so why stop at just 1 orgasm? Unlike men who need a refractory period, women are pretty much ready to begin all over again straight away. Go back to your 'warming up' techniques, being careful once again to avoid the clitoral glans whilst she takes a few minutes to cool down.

The second time around you'll be able to work through the process above more quickly as she is already well warmed up AND you know what she likes and what works... so, enjoy lavishing even more pleasure on her.

A Quick Pussy Worship Recap

  1. Have the right mindset. You are here to WORSHIP and adore her, and be pleasure orientated not goal orientated.
  2. Gain affirmative, enthusiastic consent.
  3. Spend 10-15 minutes kissing, stroking and arousing her. Build up the anticipation.
  4. Take your time to savour every part of her pussy, teasing her with your mouth to explore her inner thighs/over her underwear and avoiding the clitoral glans.
  5. Begin with long, slow, wet and flat licks.
  6. Build up a steady rhythm, and vary it only very occasionally, just enough so it's unpredictable.
  7. Gradually begin to pay more and more attention to the clitoral glans.
  8. Use your hands/fingers/thumbs as your mouth concentrates on the upper half of her pussy.
  9. Keep experimenting, and see what she likes!
  10. Focus in on what is working for her, generally applying firm pressure to the G-Spot/Clitoral Cluster with your fingers and gentle pressure on the head of her clitoris with both your lips and tongue.
  11. Increase the pressure, and stay consistent. Do not alter speed or technique when you can tell it's working.
  12. Keep going until she orgasms, and keep in contact with her until you start to feel her 'ease off'.
  13. Following the pace of her body, reduce pressure on the head of her clitoris and slow down all movements.
  14. Go back to step 4 and repeat until she begs you stop or you put her in a coma.

So, there you go boys. A foolproof guide to the most important parts of a womans pussy, and how to worship them correctly. However, if you REALLY want to be great at pussy worship, there are countless other articles, books, instructional videos and entire websites dedicated solely to female sexual pleasure. GO FORTH AND FIND THEM!

I'll leave you finally with this hilarious video, just in case you need a little more guidance on how to know whether you are doing it right or not...

Until next time...

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