Ask Me Anything Q&A...

Questions to ask a Mistress, a Dominatrix and her love of latex and Olde English Literature

At what age did you realise your calling to dominate the weak male, and how?

I think I have always had a Dominant side, and was always told as a little girl that I was too bossy. Pretty much as soon as I became interested in sex I also became interested in kink (foot fetishism in particular fascinated Me, and was very much a 'gateway fetish'...).

I then began a relationship with a wonderful guy who identified as sub, and this was My first real introduction to more traditional D/s. Although we have since parted ways, I remained Domme 🙂

How long have you been hooping as a form of exercise and toning?

I've been hooping for years. I have a lot to learn still and sadly not quite as much time to practice anymore. I'd love to learn acro/acroyoga, contact juggling too!

How many dommes do you think are into it only for the money, as opposed to at least partly for genuine enthusiasm for BDSM?

I think it would be incredibly hard to really do well at this job, and therefore earn a lot of money, unless you have a genuine interest and understanding of BDSM. Having said that, I have met a fair few Dommes who do not identify as lifestyle players. They are still amazing Dommes.

On a slight tangent, I can understand why to our slaves our enjoyment/a genuine interest in BDSM is important, but in general the empowerment rhetoric around sex work really irks Me. Everyone who charges money for what they are doing are doing it for the money. A genuine enjoyment or passion for that is a bonus, in any line of work.

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Do you do medical sessions do you like and have any nurse uniforms?

Of course I love to cater for medical fetishes. It ties in so well to so many of My favourite fetishes, ruined orgasm being the most obvious one.

I have a couple of nurses uniforms but I am currently looking to upgrade to a new one (very light blue, vintage style latex uniform). No doubt I will post some pictures once it has arrived...

What's your favourite aspect when you administer a feminisation/sissification session?

I love the process of feminisation, not just in the physical sense but also in the mental sense. As they take on the more feminine clothes, they also take a more feminine role. I love to work out what 'kind' of sissy they are... slutty, girly, shy, confident... This feminine persona can differ so drastically from both their 'vanilla' persona and 'male sub' persona. That particular aspect of transformation is fascinating to Me.

Have you done edging shoejobs with your heel soles rubbing it close to exploding but not allowing relief/rubbed a cock with heels soles and as he is about to cum you step hard on cock with heels stomping it/rubbed a cock with heel soles then as he cums you kick his balls with heels giving painful orgasm?

Yes I have done all of those things. I am not going to elaborate here.

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Ur most important trait in subs and Y: finance, obedience, humor, appearance(include sexiness), openness, or endurance?

Obedience and Openess would likely be the most important to Me. In order to session with Me, a sub must naturally possess both of these qualities.

Finance is important insofar as they need to be able to pay for the time they spend with Me.

Spoiling Me or showering Me with gifts, although lovely, is never mandatory and so that aspect isn't important. As our relationship develops, I would expect their endurance levels to also increase.

Appearance does not matter to Me in the slightest when it comes to sessioning slaves (but a piece of submissive eye candy is always a bonus!) 

I didn't get a chance to answer all of the questions I was sent, so I will likely repeat a Q&A in the future. 

Historical Heros of Scandal in Olde English Literature

Lord Byron's personal life was noteably marked by tragedy and scandal. His marriage to Annabella Milbanke ended in a bitter separation, further fueling public fascination with his private life.

Despite his tumultuous personal affairs, Byron’s influence on literature and society endures. His poetry continues to resonate with readers, and his legacy as a complex and contradictory figure remains a subject of endless fascination.

Lord Byron was a quintessential figure of Regency England, a period defined by its opulent lifestyle and scandalous affairs. As much a celebrated poet as a notorious socialite, Byron’s life was a constant interplay of literary brilliance and societal excess. His flamboyant personality and rebellious spirit made him a lightning rod for both admiration and condemnation.

Byron’s reputation preceded him. Tales of his extravagant parties, exotic pets, and unconventional relationships were fodder for gossip columns. He was a master of self-promotion, cultivating an image of the brooding, Byronic hero that captivated the public imagination. His poetry, filled with passion, despair, and a touch of misanthropy, mirrored the complexities of the age. Yet, it also served as a critical lens, often satirizing the superficiality and hypocrisy of high society.

Women were central to Byron’s life and legend. His relationships were as tempestuous as his poetry. From the aristocratic Lady Caroline Lamb to the enigmatic Mary Shelley, his female companions were often as famous as he was. They accompanied him to grand balls, glittering soirées, and fashionable watering places, their presence adding to his mystique. These women, drawn to his charisma and poetic genius, became part of the Byron myth, their lives intertwined with his own.

Don Juan is generally considered Lord Byron's most popular and influential work. This epic satirical poem is known for its wit, humor, and social commentary. It explores themes of love, adventure, and the human condition with a characteristically Byronic blend of irony and passion.

While other works like Childe Harold's Pilgrimage and Manfred are also highly regarded, Don Juan stands out for its length, scope, and enduring appeal to readers, including a fan of Olde English literature like myself.

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